You’ve finally hit your forties, the kids are getting older, and suddenly you’re experiencing a mid-life crisis. And what better way to deal with this crisis than to completely upend your life by separating or getting a divorce from the person you’ve been with for almost 20 years? I mean, who needs stability and security when you can have the thrill of uncertainty and the excitement of Tinder?
Sure, it may seem scary and intimidating, but the fact is that there’s no time like the present to take a leap of faith and see what’s on the other side. After all, who knows what kind of adventures await you once you’ve thrown caution to the wind and ended a long-term relationship?
But wait, maybe it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. What about the fact that you and your partner haven’t talked or had sex in months (or even years)? That must mean the grass is greener on the other side, right? I mean, it’s not like you could try to work on your problems or communicate with your partner like rational adults. No, the only solution is to cut ties completely and hope for the best.
So, before you make that decision, let’s weigh the pros and cons, shall we?
On the pro side, you get the excitement of starting anew, the potential for finding someone who actually listens to you (or at least pretends to), and the satisfaction of proving to yourself (and others) that you’re still desirable and attractive….AND you get to invent yourself as you are NOW.
On the con side, you face the daunting task of starting over, the potential for financial and emotional instability, and the very real possibility of ending up alone and miserable. Not to mention the fact that you’re likely to end up in the arms of someone who’s just as flawed and difficult as your previous partner, just with a different set of flaws.
So there you have it, folks!
The choice is yours. Do you stay in a relationship that might not be perfect, but at least offers some stability and comfort, or do you throw caution to the wind and risk everything in the hopes of finding your true soulmate (who may or may not actually exist)?
The choice is yours, but just remember: the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, sometimes it’s just a different shade of brown.
No matter what you choose; TALK to each other! Explain and leave that wet woollen coat of self-pity at the door. Choose to see the good in each other before you decide to leave.
Unless there is violence involved then leave. Right now. Leave.
I have a partner to love and coffee to sip together with him.
Until later my darlings, until later.
/L
